FORGIVENESS AND APOLOGIZING
“A true apology has three parts:
1) I’m sorry;
2) It was my fault;
3) How can I make it better?”
~ author unknown
Tashlich is about cleaning your life’s slate for the new year.
Want some inspiration?
Quotations about forgiveness and apologizing are below.
Check out these moving photos of pairs of perpetrators and survivors in
Portraits of Reconciliation from The New York Times Magazine:
Here’s a wonderful blog post by educator Kathleen Max on “how to teach a child to say I’m sorry”
Here’s an article on the healing power of forgiveness by Elise Cose.
And did you know that 2009 was the International Year of Reconciliation?
Before writing New Year at the Pier, I interviewed my friend, Rabbi Neil Comess-Daniels of Beth Shir Sholom Temple in Santa Monica, California. Rabbi Neil is very tuned into kids; he’s written many albums of children’s songs.
I just re-read my notes from that afternoon and realize how much of what he taught me infuses the book.  Look over my shoulder at a few of my notes:
QUOTATIONS ON FORGIVENESS / APOLOGIES
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”
~ Lewis B. Smedes
“Those who cannot forgive others break the bridge over which they themselves must pass.”~ Confucius, philosopher and teacher (c. 551-478 BCE)
“Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit.”
~ Peter Ustinov
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
~ Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi
“A true apology has three parts: 1) I’m sorry; 2) It was my fault; 3) How can I make it better?” ~ author unknown
“We achieve inner health only through forgiveness – the forgiveness not only of others but also of ourselves” ~ Joshua Loth Liebman
“So how do you remove your character defects? In Judaism, the word for sin is the Hebrew “chet.” It is actually an archery term meaning to miss the mark. In life nobody is a perfect marksman who hits the bulls eye every time. We will often miss the mark and produce chet. Our goal is to grow spiritually so that we miss the mark less and less, and our chets become smaller and smaller.” ~ Rabbi Arthur Segal
“If you have a lot of sins, you can bring a whole loaf!” ~Lucy Muller
“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” ~ Paul Boese
I don’t know if I continue, even today, always liking myself. But what I learned to do many years ago was to forgive myself. It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you live, you will make mistakes- it is inevitable. But once you do and you see the mistake, then you forgive yourself and say, ‘well, if I’d known better I’d have done better,’ that’s all. So you say to people who you think you may have injured, ‘I’m sorry,’ and then you say to yourself, ‘I’m sorry.’ If we all hold on to the mistake, we can’t see our own glory in the mirror because we have the mistake between our faces and the mirror; we can’t see what we’re capable of being. You can ask forgiveness of others, but in the end the real forgiveness is in one’s own self. I think that young men and women are so caught by the way they see themselves. Now mind you. When a larger society sees them as unattractive, as threats, as too black or too white or too poor or too fat or too thin or too sexual or too asexual, that’s rough. But you can overcome that. The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself. If we don’t have that we never grow, we never learn, and sure as hell we should never teach. ~ Maya Angelou
“You’ve got to make things right with someone else. You’re responsible.” ~ Bruce Balan
When you realize you’ve made a mistake, make amends immediately. It’s easier to eat crow while it’s still warm. ~Dan Heist
An apology is a good way to have the last word. ~Author Unknown
An apology is the superglue of life. It can repair just about anything. ~Lynn Johnston
Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand. ~Emily Kimbrough
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